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How Goals Find a Desired Lifestyle

Most people have a dream of the lifestyle they want to live and are searching for ways to achieve it. Some people achieve it and others never come close. Why?

When I was a teenager I read books on sailing around the world in small sailboats, crossing the Pacific Ocean on a raft, and exploring the jungles of Latin America. During this time I developed a dream of the lifestyle I wanted to live and what I wanted to achieve. Two ideas motivated me; travel down the Amazon River and cross the Pacific Ocean in a dugout canoe. By the age of 35 I achieved both of these goals. Events like this don’t just happen; they are the result of dreaming, then taking action. Without a goal that motivates nothing will happen.

Please note: Money is not a goal; it is a reward for personal achievement.

There are seven steps between dreaming and achieving a desired lifestyle.

  1. Finding a goal that motivates. – Experiences plus knowledge helps us find a goal that sticks, not a passing fad.
  2. Attach a dream to our hero. – We are influenced by the achievements of others such as sport fans. Go beyond cheering them and set a goal of doing something related to their achievement.
  3. Developing persistence. – Researching, dreaming, fantasizing, and socializing with people with similar interest are exercises that increase persistence and motivation. These powerful activities cost nothing.
  4. Taking action. – Nothing is going to happen until we take action. This requires time, money, resources, and risk. This includes acquiring additional skills.
  5. Unexpected help. – When pursuing a goal that motivates, intuitive forces become active that will have us at the right place at the right time for opportunity or it brings opportunity to us. This is in the form of personal achievement, not greed such as money. Money is a reward of personal achievement.
  6. Making a decision. – When doors of opportunity open, this is decision time to accept or reject it. Very often this requires risk.
  7. Bonus benefits to a goal. – Motivated people inspire others and want to be associated with them. That puts them on the short list for opportunity and promotions that may or may not be related to the primary goal.

Most teenagers find topics that turn them on, but are put down by friends and family. Very often this ends their dreaming and adapt to interest that is socially acceptable. Ask what motivates them? They answer, “I don’t know.” Responsibilities of adult life drives' the final nail into the coffin of dreams. We do not have to accept defeat; we can change our lifestyle and make dreams come true.

It cost nothing to put life back into dreams. You start by researching, fantasizing, and visualizing yourself fulfilling your dream. To enhance the power of persistence, socialize with people with similar interest. We all have heroes. Adding a goal of doing something related to our hero’s activities will enhance persistence and motivation. These actions do not have to coast anything.

Taking action may require finding a new employer; acquire new skills and getting personal finances under control. Maxed out credit cards is a major barrier to controlling our lifestyle. In fact, with maxed out credit cards we are a slave to the credit card company. We spend all our time planning how to pay bills, not on the things we want to do. If we spend large amounts of time thinking about current problems, we cannot move very fast toward our goal. Acquiring new skills requires a love-to-learn. Cost can be kept under control with self-education techniques. People that can educate themselves are high on the opportunity list.

Once action has been taken we find ourselves at the right place at the right time that leads to opportunity. This is the activity of intuitive forces. While we are searching for opportunity there are others searching for something of related interest. Intuitive forces bring the two together. The effectiveness of this force is related to our level of persistence and motivation. This does not work for people that change their goal every month or have no goal at all.

Doors of opportunity opened many times that led to failure until experience and skills were acquired. Every failure was one step closer to success.

Intuitive forces are little understood and cannot be depended on. But, they may be the support behind a single encounter or a series of encounters over years that leads to a successful conclusion. Sometimes intuitive forces create/allow failures until skills needed for success are acquired. Failure is a learning tool. Looking back at my experiences, I was at the right place at the right time too many times for it to be called an accident. Doors of opportunity opened many times that led to failure until experience and skills were acquired. Looking back, it is easy to see why early stages of some of my ambitions were failures.

New opportunity requires decisions. Risk and fear of the unknown can be a barrier. Getting this far requires trust that the right decision is being made. If it was wrong, persistence is bouncing back and trying again.

Once action is taken you will be highly motivated. Unknowingly, motivated people radiate energy that is picked up by others. You will be asked to help them achieve their goals in the form of favors or job opportunity. This leads to the upward spiral of more opportunity. This is not available to people without a motivating goal.

My experiences with the above format

My dreams of jungle and sea adventures started during my early teens. At that time I had no money or skills, but I used the only resource available to me, the public library, dreaming, and fantasying. I joined the Sea Scouts, a unit of Boy Scouts of America. The dreaming stage went on for 10 years, slipping further and further away from possibilities with every year that passed. At the age of 25 I was living in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, living from payday to payday with creditors controlling my life. I worked for a company that paid low wages and abused its employees. I had no formal training as machinist, but this was opportunity to acquire needed experience. In time I achieved the title of journeyman machinist.  I then revived my teenage dreams and take action to make them happen. First action was to find employment with a company that took pride in its employees.

I have a book titled “The Liki Tiki Story” that has details of events that took place. For this article I will start with my new employment with the Panama Canal Company, Panama. For the first time in my life I was working with highly motivated coworkers, who had dreams of their goals in life, but, like me, ran out of money to fulfill them. With high wages, socializing with people with similar interest, jungle environment one hour drive from my house, opportunity for carrying out my dreams of traveling down the Amazon River and crossing the Pacific Ocean became reality.

How did I get in an environment that opened doors of opportunity? Intuitive forces! It seems intuitive forces had a master plan and all I had to do was make the decision to follow my gut feelings without understanding why. For several years, event after event had me at the right place at the right time. An unknown force was supporting my goals. On the Amazon River I met four others traveling down river. We built a raft and the rest is history.

My dream of crossing the Pacific Ocean was inspired by my study of how the Polynesians populated the Pacific Islands from Hawaii, 5,000 miles south to New Zealand in dugout canoes. It was my goal to build a Polynesian boat in Tahiti and sail it to Hawaii. During the 1780s, Captain Cook recorded seeing dugout canoes 40-feet long. Today, trees that size are long gone in the Pacific Islands, but they are available 170 miles from where I lived in Panama and Indians with the skills needed to build them. My book “The Liki Tiki Story” has the details.

Along the way there were many failures, primary because I did not have the skills necessary to succeed. Every failure I acquired new skills and by bouncing back I was able to capitalize on them. This was repeated over and over until success came.

Employees at the Panama Canal Company are highly motivated. This is by design. The company has a bi-weekly newspaper with information about company activities. They also have articles about employees activities, on and off the job. My activities were always written up. Reading about coworkers achievements inspires others.

The company has employee training programs, helping expand their skills or acquire new ones. I was sent to hardhat diving school at company expense. On the job, my income was greatly increased. The company has a policy of being a leader in adapting new technology. In 1980 personal computers were installed in offices and very few people knew how to use them. This was opportunity for people with self-education skills. At the time, the only thing I knew about computers was what I read in Popular Science magazines. I was taken out of the machine shop, placed at a desk with a computer and a manual. No training program was available. My assignment; learn computer programming code (basic A) and write programs that are useful for people in the office. At this time, the only commercial software available was word processing (today’s Microsoft notepad) and very simple spread sheets. I retired as supervisor of the computer department. In third world countries like Panama, they do not have education opportunities like in the United States. People that get ahead have self-education skills.

Once I took action to fulfill the dream of my desired lifestyle, doors of opportunity were open wide.

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